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Tuesday, February 13, 2007

The Secret

by Tracee Sioux

Last Thursday I saw an Oprah on The Secret, a new DVD, and I had it overnighted for a party I was throwing. It changed everything for me.

The Secret is the law of attraction.

If I focus my thoughts on good things, then good things will happen in my life. If I focus on negative things, well, then negative things will happen in my life. The people on the video, people who live by The Secret, guarantee that if you live your life accepting this law of the universe then you can have anything you want.

I have heard the principles included in The Secret all my life.

Ask and ye shall receive, seek and ye shall find, knock and the door shall be opened.

Now unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. Ephesians 3:20

The key for me is two-fold:

I am allowed to WANT things for my self and my family. At first glance the video seemed very focused on things: cars, houses, bikes, etc. But, I think that's because it is tangible and easily documented. And I've always been told and had this guilt about wanting nice things for myself or my family.

Does it make me selfish to want a big beautiful home where my family feels cozy and happy to spend time there? Does it make me selfish to want a really nice beautiful car that gets me from point A to B with class and style?

For many years we've been asking, "God, just give us just enough to make it and pay our bills." And that is exactly what he's been giving us. Just enough and no more. Well, now I'm asking for abundance in everything!

According to The Secret, it does not make me selfish to want these things, nor does it make me selfish to actively pursue them because these things are available to everyone. All they have to do is have the faith that God will bless them with them.

This is key for me. If there Is enough to go around and there is no principle of lack or limitation in the world then I do not have to be ashamed of myself for taking these things from anyone else. If they want these things, they too can have them. How freeing is that? For me, quite freeing!

What's most amazing to me is that what I want was right there. It didn't take me two days to know the truth about what I've always wanted deep in my heart. It was beyond simple to write several pages in my journal about what I REALLY want my life to look like. I've always wanted primarily the same things, I just believed it was selfish to want it, believed if I got it someone else would have to go without, believed that I would face disappointment if I allowed myself to want it. I didn't really feel that I was worthier than anyone else, now I realize that EVERYONE is worthy, including myself.

My new year's resolution was to control my thoughts and emotions better. This was before I knew The Secret. I was reading The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People and realized I was constantly focusing on what was outside my own circle of concern - things that I can't change. And worse, I was focusing on what I didn't want for others. For instance, I spent quite a bit of time focusing on my mother-in-law's pain. According to The Secret focusing on her pain created more pain for her. What I should have done and will now start doing is focusing on comfort and peace and feelings of physical pleasure for her, thus helping her to create more of that.

I've been a negative thinker for most of my life - thinking about what I don't want instead of what I do want.

This is a bizarro example: I left all my journals and letters and memorabilia and souvenirs and photographs and negatives in my cousin's basement in Connecticut three years ago when we left New York. I often thought about my stuff, wanting to send for it and never having the money to ship it back to me. But, I was also kind of afraid of it, like it might bring back some of the terribleness of some of my past experiences, so I never made sure there was enough money to get it back. When I thought about this stuff I would always think of a flood in her basement, like I was warding off a flood. Like, oh I hope there is never a flood that will destroy my stuff in her basement. So, today I pop on my email and there are all these forwarded emails from my cousin. So I email her and ask about my stuff.

FLOOD!

For real, there was a flood that destroyed all the papers from my past, all of it.

According to The Secret what I should have done is visualize all my stuff safe and sound and cozy in her basement. But, then I wouldn't be completely and totally freed from my past would I?

What I truly want is to be a hugely successful writer, helping women empower themselves and their daughters. I truly want a family that is so stinking happy and affectionate all the time that we make people crave it. I want a marriage that's passionate and affectionate. I want a big beautiful home and a fantastic car and I want money that comes frequently and easily so I am empowered to give lots of it away to others who need it.

It feels so good to me to just be allowed to want this stuff.

And just watch, I know I'm going to get it. For God has given me this word personally,

Neglect not the gift that is in thee, which was given thee by prophecy, with the laying on of hands by the presbytery.

Meditate upon these things, give thyself wholly to them; that they profiting may appear to all.

Take heed unto thyself, and unto the doctrine; continue in them: for in doing this thou shalt both save thyself, and them that hear thee. I Timothy 4:14-16

Buy The Secret - you'll be glad you did.
http://shop.thesecret.tv/Shops/DVD_Offer.php

Read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.
www.franklincovey.com

6 comments:

Rebecca said...

I saw that Oprah show in a hotel room in Oklahoma when I was there for work. I cried during each one of the commercial breaks. I mean I sobbed really loudly! I was hoping that no one was walking around in the hallway outside my room!

It was such an amazing epiphany. I was bawling because I was letting go of grief from my mom's death, plus, and this is weird, but I've always clung to the belief that my family is awful and I had a miserable childhood and I had no one meeting my needs as a child, either a mother or father really. And while my family WAS awful in many ways, I realized watching that show that it is just as horrible and detrimental to me now to keep focusing on that, especially when I NOW have the best relationship with my sister and father that I've ever had in my entire life! It is crucial that I focus on my relationship now with my sister and my dad, and not focus on the past in some kind of righteous "i've been wronged" kind of way, especially considering now that my dad's remarried he is really a different person and I feel like I'm getting to know him for the first time and really liking our relationship. So I felt like I was letting go of a bunch of sorrow as well as having a harsh realization that I have been choosing to continue to think of my family as completely dysfunctional when in fact everyone including myself has really changed and I love them very much. And wouldn't that be a tragedy if my thoughts didn't focus on that and let that grow? So I felt bad that in clinging to my awful thoughts about the past I was giving bitterness and resentment a chance to grow instead.

Then, on a whole other topic, I was bawling for all the times I thought I was fat and ugly and how that was really a tragedy for me to focus on things about myself that I hate, when the truth is I am a beautiful woman.

So, needless to say, I really liked the show! I'm going to get the DVD. :)

Bret was like, "hello, I've been telling you you're not fat for years!" I tried to explain that I just had rationalized his words away, thinking "well he doesn't really see these imperfections." But imperfections or not, I should not be thinking and talking about being fat! I'd just never had the lightbulb moment before until I watched that show. I know tons of people have told me I'm not fat, but it didn't click until then. Is that weird or what?

So Sioux Me said...

You are so right Rebecca! I'm so glad you saw it and so glad it changed you like it did me. I'm so glad you're close to your sister and your dad.

I am so truly happy that you can see yourself as beautiful - because you really, really are a beautiful and fit woman! But, what good is that if you can't see it?

Rebecca said...

Thanks so much! I feel like now that my mom's gone we've been given a second chance, and it makes me so happy.

And yep, that's what I thought too when I watched the show -- what's the point of being fit and beautiful if you're completely miserable about what you see in a mirror? There's zero point, and that's a tragedy in and of itself. No more ironic tragedies for me! I am so grateful to Oprah, frankly! I usually ignore the kind of books that talk about "success", so I might've never had this epiphany if it wasn't for her!

So Sioux Me said...

"Rebecca, Perfect You

You are beautiful, Rebecca.

Look at your reflection in the mirror and see God's blessings.

Your beauty is a gift from God. Be grateful.

You define beauty.

Beauty is defined by you.

Wish not for a different loveliness.

You are as pretty as any girl.

You are perfectly made. Got thought up the most perfect girl he could think of and you were what he made. Everything about you is exactly as God wanted it to be.

You're the perfect you.

Heart face, pearly teeth, button nose, rosy cheeks, sea blue eyes, bow lips, strong body, lovely skin.

Every inch, perfectly you."

Those are words I wrote for Ainsley for her 5th birthday. But I believe it applies to Rebecca and every girl and I also believe every woman needs to have someone say such things to her. Most importantly, every woman should say such things to herself, if she does she will only become more and more beautiful!

Rusty said...

Ya, The Seceret is pretty cool. I have know about it since the early last summer. I did part of their website, so I watched it a few months before it was even release. If you like the secret DVD I would recommend another DVD called "What the bleep do we know."

andrearocks said...

I just received the DVD in the mail and I am so excited to watch it. You have totally inspired me Miss Tracee Sioux of Longview Texas!

Tuesday, February 13, 2007

The Secret

by Tracee Sioux

Last Thursday I saw an Oprah on The Secret, a new DVD, and I had it overnighted for a party I was throwing. It changed everything for me.

The Secret is the law of attraction.

If I focus my thoughts on good things, then good things will happen in my life. If I focus on negative things, well, then negative things will happen in my life. The people on the video, people who live by The Secret, guarantee that if you live your life accepting this law of the universe then you can have anything you want.

I have heard the principles included in The Secret all my life.

Ask and ye shall receive, seek and ye shall find, knock and the door shall be opened.

Now unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. Ephesians 3:20

The key for me is two-fold:

I am allowed to WANT things for my self and my family. At first glance the video seemed very focused on things: cars, houses, bikes, etc. But, I think that's because it is tangible and easily documented. And I've always been told and had this guilt about wanting nice things for myself or my family.

Does it make me selfish to want a big beautiful home where my family feels cozy and happy to spend time there? Does it make me selfish to want a really nice beautiful car that gets me from point A to B with class and style?

For many years we've been asking, "God, just give us just enough to make it and pay our bills." And that is exactly what he's been giving us. Just enough and no more. Well, now I'm asking for abundance in everything!

According to The Secret, it does not make me selfish to want these things, nor does it make me selfish to actively pursue them because these things are available to everyone. All they have to do is have the faith that God will bless them with them.

This is key for me. If there Is enough to go around and there is no principle of lack or limitation in the world then I do not have to be ashamed of myself for taking these things from anyone else. If they want these things, they too can have them. How freeing is that? For me, quite freeing!

What's most amazing to me is that what I want was right there. It didn't take me two days to know the truth about what I've always wanted deep in my heart. It was beyond simple to write several pages in my journal about what I REALLY want my life to look like. I've always wanted primarily the same things, I just believed it was selfish to want it, believed if I got it someone else would have to go without, believed that I would face disappointment if I allowed myself to want it. I didn't really feel that I was worthier than anyone else, now I realize that EVERYONE is worthy, including myself.

My new year's resolution was to control my thoughts and emotions better. This was before I knew The Secret. I was reading The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People and realized I was constantly focusing on what was outside my own circle of concern - things that I can't change. And worse, I was focusing on what I didn't want for others. For instance, I spent quite a bit of time focusing on my mother-in-law's pain. According to The Secret focusing on her pain created more pain for her. What I should have done and will now start doing is focusing on comfort and peace and feelings of physical pleasure for her, thus helping her to create more of that.

I've been a negative thinker for most of my life - thinking about what I don't want instead of what I do want.

This is a bizarro example: I left all my journals and letters and memorabilia and souvenirs and photographs and negatives in my cousin's basement in Connecticut three years ago when we left New York. I often thought about my stuff, wanting to send for it and never having the money to ship it back to me. But, I was also kind of afraid of it, like it might bring back some of the terribleness of some of my past experiences, so I never made sure there was enough money to get it back. When I thought about this stuff I would always think of a flood in her basement, like I was warding off a flood. Like, oh I hope there is never a flood that will destroy my stuff in her basement. So, today I pop on my email and there are all these forwarded emails from my cousin. So I email her and ask about my stuff.

FLOOD!

For real, there was a flood that destroyed all the papers from my past, all of it.

According to The Secret what I should have done is visualize all my stuff safe and sound and cozy in her basement. But, then I wouldn't be completely and totally freed from my past would I?

What I truly want is to be a hugely successful writer, helping women empower themselves and their daughters. I truly want a family that is so stinking happy and affectionate all the time that we make people crave it. I want a marriage that's passionate and affectionate. I want a big beautiful home and a fantastic car and I want money that comes frequently and easily so I am empowered to give lots of it away to others who need it.

It feels so good to me to just be allowed to want this stuff.

And just watch, I know I'm going to get it. For God has given me this word personally,

Neglect not the gift that is in thee, which was given thee by prophecy, with the laying on of hands by the presbytery.

Meditate upon these things, give thyself wholly to them; that they profiting may appear to all.

Take heed unto thyself, and unto the doctrine; continue in them: for in doing this thou shalt both save thyself, and them that hear thee. I Timothy 4:14-16

Buy The Secret - you'll be glad you did.
http://shop.thesecret.tv/Shops/DVD_Offer.php

Read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.
www.franklincovey.com

6 comments:

Rebecca said...

I saw that Oprah show in a hotel room in Oklahoma when I was there for work. I cried during each one of the commercial breaks. I mean I sobbed really loudly! I was hoping that no one was walking around in the hallway outside my room!

It was such an amazing epiphany. I was bawling because I was letting go of grief from my mom's death, plus, and this is weird, but I've always clung to the belief that my family is awful and I had a miserable childhood and I had no one meeting my needs as a child, either a mother or father really. And while my family WAS awful in many ways, I realized watching that show that it is just as horrible and detrimental to me now to keep focusing on that, especially when I NOW have the best relationship with my sister and father that I've ever had in my entire life! It is crucial that I focus on my relationship now with my sister and my dad, and not focus on the past in some kind of righteous "i've been wronged" kind of way, especially considering now that my dad's remarried he is really a different person and I feel like I'm getting to know him for the first time and really liking our relationship. So I felt like I was letting go of a bunch of sorrow as well as having a harsh realization that I have been choosing to continue to think of my family as completely dysfunctional when in fact everyone including myself has really changed and I love them very much. And wouldn't that be a tragedy if my thoughts didn't focus on that and let that grow? So I felt bad that in clinging to my awful thoughts about the past I was giving bitterness and resentment a chance to grow instead.

Then, on a whole other topic, I was bawling for all the times I thought I was fat and ugly and how that was really a tragedy for me to focus on things about myself that I hate, when the truth is I am a beautiful woman.

So, needless to say, I really liked the show! I'm going to get the DVD. :)

Bret was like, "hello, I've been telling you you're not fat for years!" I tried to explain that I just had rationalized his words away, thinking "well he doesn't really see these imperfections." But imperfections or not, I should not be thinking and talking about being fat! I'd just never had the lightbulb moment before until I watched that show. I know tons of people have told me I'm not fat, but it didn't click until then. Is that weird or what?

So Sioux Me said...

You are so right Rebecca! I'm so glad you saw it and so glad it changed you like it did me. I'm so glad you're close to your sister and your dad.

I am so truly happy that you can see yourself as beautiful - because you really, really are a beautiful and fit woman! But, what good is that if you can't see it?

Rebecca said...

Thanks so much! I feel like now that my mom's gone we've been given a second chance, and it makes me so happy.

And yep, that's what I thought too when I watched the show -- what's the point of being fit and beautiful if you're completely miserable about what you see in a mirror? There's zero point, and that's a tragedy in and of itself. No more ironic tragedies for me! I am so grateful to Oprah, frankly! I usually ignore the kind of books that talk about "success", so I might've never had this epiphany if it wasn't for her!

So Sioux Me said...

"Rebecca, Perfect You

You are beautiful, Rebecca.

Look at your reflection in the mirror and see God's blessings.

Your beauty is a gift from God. Be grateful.

You define beauty.

Beauty is defined by you.

Wish not for a different loveliness.

You are as pretty as any girl.

You are perfectly made. Got thought up the most perfect girl he could think of and you were what he made. Everything about you is exactly as God wanted it to be.

You're the perfect you.

Heart face, pearly teeth, button nose, rosy cheeks, sea blue eyes, bow lips, strong body, lovely skin.

Every inch, perfectly you."

Those are words I wrote for Ainsley for her 5th birthday. But I believe it applies to Rebecca and every girl and I also believe every woman needs to have someone say such things to her. Most importantly, every woman should say such things to herself, if she does she will only become more and more beautiful!

Rusty said...

Ya, The Seceret is pretty cool. I have know about it since the early last summer. I did part of their website, so I watched it a few months before it was even release. If you like the secret DVD I would recommend another DVD called "What the bleep do we know."

andrearocks said...

I just received the DVD in the mail and I am so excited to watch it. You have totally inspired me Miss Tracee Sioux of Longview Texas!