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Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Quirky Design-A-Dolls

doll 1.jpg

Terry Candee, from GoGo Glue Gun Fun, a mother-daughter bonding experience, send me two of her Quirky Dolls Design-A-Doll Kits from her Etsy store.

We made a "Glamour" Doll together this Saturday. Each set comes with a pre-made 12" fabric doll and a plentiful amount of supplies and instructions to design about any doll your daughter can imagine. There is a variety of skin colors and fabric selections and themes. No sewing involved, just cutting, glueing and a little pattern tracing.

The retail price is $17, the time spent together designing the doll - priceless.

doll 3.jpg

Ainsley enjoyed the project so much that she declared she will "become a designer because she's very good at it," when she grows up.

Most of you know that I have a few issues with some dolls marketed to girls. Bratz and Barbi to name two.

I found this exercise quite interesting. You can't really say its a "clean slate" because images of dolls, Bratz, Barbies, American Girl, Jaks, etc., are in their face with various forms of marketing all day long.

But, it was intriguing to see watch her make this doll.

She made this doll to be like herself. She referred to aspects of it as "like me," several times.

Yet, she made some aspects very unlike her present self - yet, still like her inner-authentic self. The long curly hair instead of her current short bob, for instance.

She's like me in this. I cut my hair, yet think of my authentic self with the long hair I've worn most of my life.

doll 4.jpg

She also made her doll quite freckly. Gave it a fantastic hat and blinged it out.

And then there is this:

doll 2.jpg

She gave her doll boobs and a belly button and named it Molley (which also happens to be the name of her very first baby doll. She frequently names dolls Molley).

Buy a Quirky Design-A-Doll Kit for Christmas and learn more about who your daughter is.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

On Fear

speakers training.jpg

I have to give my first Toastmasters Speech tomorrow and I'm scared, I announced at dinner last night.

Everybody gets scared Mommy. It's okay to be scared. But, brave is when you are scared but you do it anyway. What's your speech about? Ainsley advised.

Me, I have to introduce myself and talk about me for 5 minutes.

I have two blogs and I write about my daughter and my son. I love my children. I'm a good mother. I have a husband who works at a chicken company. I have nice parents and two brothers and a sister. I'm pretty and I have short hair and blue eyes. I'm a writer. I have red couches and I'm a good decorator and a great cook. I love to exercise and I teach my children to exercise. I teach my children to read and write and their numbers and do projects with them. I'm a painter and I can sew. I go to church. I love yoga. I read a lot and love books. I love to dance. Just say that and you'll be fine, she told me.

At least I know she's been listening.

B-R-A-V-E

Monday, November 24, 2008

Seamstress Apprentice

1 ainsley sewing.jpg

This is Ainsley's first sewing project, a really cute hot pad.

Lately, now that I have a functional kitchen I don't loath, I've resurrected this foundation of knowledge about cooking. I can cook. Well. I can make, like, anything I would want to order at a restaurant.

I'm not yet a master with the sewing machine, but I know how to use one and I can make drapes, pillows, maybe a prom or wedding dress if I have to (hoping I don't have to). I can definitely make a gorgeous and tactile baby blanket and a Christmas tree skirt. I'm kind of sloppy though and dislike details in general.

As an adult managing my own home, my perspective on the feminine arts is totally different - I guess I thought feminism would cure us of the need or desire to sew and cook and clean (which is still a million times more realistic than Cinderella - who thought marriage would be her ticket out of chores and housework).

When my friends barter with me to sew in their zipper (no, too hard) or hem their pants, I realize this skill is useful. You may even be able to earn a living at it - just check out all the women who are opening their own Etzy Stores and online businesses and make it a point to Stimulate Women's Economy.

Not only can I make anything I want to and (sometimes) save money, but I can make anything I can imagine. (Truly it is more expensive to make the baby blanket than to buy the manufactured one these days.)

This is our feminine heritage.

My mother is a master seamstress, crafter, candy maker and all around home maker. I'm trying to get her to open an Etzy store of her own. You should be so lucky to get this woman's caramels for $26 a pound. I mean, Oprah should send for these melt-in-your-mouth mother candies and list them as her Favorite Things - they are that good.

Ainsley and ZACK will definitely benefit from learning these skills.

We should not stop teaching girls the feminine arts passed from generation to generation - we should stop teaching them ONLY to girls.

Hey, who wants to buy it Ainsley's first hot pad?

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Sibling Envy

1post-it.jpg

The only cure for sentiments like this is extra attention.

So, I put aside my own need to lie in bed with a book all day on Sunday and took her to town where we went window shopping.

Left Zack with Daddy.

What do you do when your kids get jealous? I wonder how Moms like Kate from Jon and Kate + 8 gives each kid "enough" attention? My aunt Stephanie had 10 kids - how do mother's manage that?

Are girls more insatiable than boys for attention?

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Pro-Girl Book Part 11, The Perfect You

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last2 1.jpeg

It's been my pleasure to share Ainsley, Perfect You with my Empowering Girls: So Sioux Me readers.

You may have different ideas about religion or God or the nature of the Universe. You may have alternative views about education. Your child will have different attributes and characteristics, and your worries about your children and their development may be different from my own.

Still, with editing and creativity you can make a book for your own child that will counter the onslaught of negative media and marketing our kids face today.

you have plenty of time to create a book of your own for Christmas using your favorite digital photo website like Mypublisher.com.

Sign up for the Empowering Girls: So Sioux Me RSS Feed and bookmark this website so you don't miss more great tools to empower girls.

We'll be discussing some difficult and complex issues shortly, as I've recently finished So Sexy So Soon, the new book about why our kids' media has suddenly become so inappropriately hyper-sexual. I've also interviewed Rosalind Chait Barnett, PhD a nationally recognized expert on the impact of gender on work, school and other environments, and Emily J. Martin, a principal in an American Civil Liberties Union lawsuit charging same-sex public schools with discrimination.

Please leave comments so I know you're out there. I often wonder what everyone else thinks and comments are the only real indication I have of who you are and what you believe. What you think is important to me. I don't have all the answers. I have some ideas and a lot of questions.

Here's the rest of Ainsley, Perfect You:

Steal This Christmas Gift Please, Pro-Girl Book Part 1

Pro-Girl Book Part 2

Pro-Girl Book Part 3

Pro-Girl Book Part 4

Pro-Girl Book Part 5

Pro-Girl Book Part 6

Pro-Girl Book Part 7

Pro-Girl Book Part 8

Pro-Girl Book Part 9

Pro-Girl Book Part 10

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Pro-Girl Book Part 10, Good for Self Esteem

pg1 19.jpeg


page 19, purple.jpeg

Pages from Ainsley, Perfect You, a book I wrote for my daughter. Steal this idea for Christmas, Please!

Subscribe to my RSS feed and/or email subscription. You don't miss the rest of this series.

"Boogie Shaka Saka" was a phrase she made up and said over and over and over for about a year. She wanted to name the Baby "Boogie Shaka Saka" when I was pregnant. Fortunately, we prevailed and named him Zackary Elliott Cole instead.

Steal This Christmas Gift Please, Pro-Girl Book Part 1

Pro-Girl Book Part 2

Pro-Girl Book Part 3

Pro-Girl Book Part 4

Pro-Girl Book Part 5

Pro-Girl Book Part 6

Pro-Girl Book Part 7

Pro-Girl Book Part 8

Pro-Girl Book Part 9

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

1st Day 1st Grade

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Yesterday I sent Ainsley off to First Grade.

Someone asked me, Did you cry?

Cry? I did cartwheels!

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Which is an exaggeration. I felt a some relief.

Have you any idea what its like to work with two small children in your cube?

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THIS is the reason I'm not doing cartwheels - Yet.

Zack is bored and lonely when his sister goes to school. He needs to go to preschool. Only I didn't realize my new town has only one and it fills up fast.

I'm praying for two biters and two separation anxieties - Zack's 4th on the list.

Mother's Day Out will give me 2 days a week to work uninterrupted. It will give him social contact with other children and stimulation. He's super smart - which is why he was trying to Make His Own Popcorn For Dinner. Check out his Potty Dance debut on YouTube.

How are ya'll managing your first day of school around the country?

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Empowering Girls: Yoga Skills

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One of my goals, as a parent, is to teach my daughter coping skills and practical techniques for dealing with stress.


Personally, I've found yoga to be instrumental in building a core strength, core inner self and self worth, stress reduction and in communing with God.


1yoga2.jpg


Of course I want her to have access to skills like this before she hits adolescents and all the negative coping strategies become available to her.

I used to use negative strategies like smoking cigarettes, experimenting with drugs, defining my self worth by boys and men, and a daily diet of Wellbutrin and Xanex. One of my primary objectives is to prevent the adoption of those.


P8140005081420080005.jpg


Over the summer I've been practicing yoga listening to Elsie Escobar classes on iTunes during Zack's nap. Sometimes I invite a friend. Sometimes I encourage Ainsley to try a few minutes.


She posed for these photos and then got bored before we moved out of the sitting pose. A fascination with the incense stick took over and she sat near me waving it through the air like a 4th of July sparkler.


The next afternoon I came out of the shower and found her teaching her friends yoga with a DVD, lit candles and burning incense.


Ssshhhh, Mom, we're having our relaxing quiet yoga time.


1yoga4.jpg


The APA's Report on Sexualization of Girls recommends teaching your children a way to center themselves, meditate, pray, and view one's body as having value beyond its appearance, beyond male entertainment. Yoga does that for me.


Hopefully, you have healthy coping methods that center and ground you and hopefully you're finding ways to teach those to your kids.

Teach what YOU know.


Friday, May 9, 2008

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Happy Birthday, Ainsley!


My daughter turned 6 yesterday. Six years I've been a mother and six years she's been learning and developing on this earth.

Her birthdays make me a little sad. They're full of joy, but that's six years we don't get to do over again. Six years that have passed and we can't have them back. Silly? A little, but valid none-the-less.

As she grows older I reflect on the things I hope she's learning. Last year, as I told you previously, I wrote her a book titled Ainsley, Perfect You. I want to share the foreword with you as a suggestion for what we, as mothers, should be teaching every daughter about herself.

A message to my daughter
that she IS, and always will be, enough.
Smart Enough
Beautiful Enough
Loved Enough
Strong Enough
Bright Enough
Witty Enough
Kind Enough
Generous Enough
Adventurous Enough
Compassionate Enough
Precocious Enough
Good enough to be the
Perfect Ainsley Sarah.

Showing posts with label Ainsley. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ainsley. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Quirky Design-A-Dolls

doll 1.jpg

Terry Candee, from GoGo Glue Gun Fun, a mother-daughter bonding experience, send me two of her Quirky Dolls Design-A-Doll Kits from her Etsy store.

We made a "Glamour" Doll together this Saturday. Each set comes with a pre-made 12" fabric doll and a plentiful amount of supplies and instructions to design about any doll your daughter can imagine. There is a variety of skin colors and fabric selections and themes. No sewing involved, just cutting, glueing and a little pattern tracing.

The retail price is $17, the time spent together designing the doll - priceless.

doll 3.jpg

Ainsley enjoyed the project so much that she declared she will "become a designer because she's very good at it," when she grows up.

Most of you know that I have a few issues with some dolls marketed to girls. Bratz and Barbi to name two.

I found this exercise quite interesting. You can't really say its a "clean slate" because images of dolls, Bratz, Barbies, American Girl, Jaks, etc., are in their face with various forms of marketing all day long.

But, it was intriguing to see watch her make this doll.

She made this doll to be like herself. She referred to aspects of it as "like me," several times.

Yet, she made some aspects very unlike her present self - yet, still like her inner-authentic self. The long curly hair instead of her current short bob, for instance.

She's like me in this. I cut my hair, yet think of my authentic self with the long hair I've worn most of my life.

doll 4.jpg

She also made her doll quite freckly. Gave it a fantastic hat and blinged it out.

And then there is this:

doll 2.jpg

She gave her doll boobs and a belly button and named it Molley (which also happens to be the name of her very first baby doll. She frequently names dolls Molley).

Buy a Quirky Design-A-Doll Kit for Christmas and learn more about who your daughter is.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

On Fear

speakers training.jpg

I have to give my first Toastmasters Speech tomorrow and I'm scared, I announced at dinner last night.

Everybody gets scared Mommy. It's okay to be scared. But, brave is when you are scared but you do it anyway. What's your speech about? Ainsley advised.

Me, I have to introduce myself and talk about me for 5 minutes.

I have two blogs and I write about my daughter and my son. I love my children. I'm a good mother. I have a husband who works at a chicken company. I have nice parents and two brothers and a sister. I'm pretty and I have short hair and blue eyes. I'm a writer. I have red couches and I'm a good decorator and a great cook. I love to exercise and I teach my children to exercise. I teach my children to read and write and their numbers and do projects with them. I'm a painter and I can sew. I go to church. I love yoga. I read a lot and love books. I love to dance. Just say that and you'll be fine, she told me.

At least I know she's been listening.

B-R-A-V-E

Monday, November 24, 2008

Seamstress Apprentice

1 ainsley sewing.jpg

This is Ainsley's first sewing project, a really cute hot pad.

Lately, now that I have a functional kitchen I don't loath, I've resurrected this foundation of knowledge about cooking. I can cook. Well. I can make, like, anything I would want to order at a restaurant.

I'm not yet a master with the sewing machine, but I know how to use one and I can make drapes, pillows, maybe a prom or wedding dress if I have to (hoping I don't have to). I can definitely make a gorgeous and tactile baby blanket and a Christmas tree skirt. I'm kind of sloppy though and dislike details in general.

As an adult managing my own home, my perspective on the feminine arts is totally different - I guess I thought feminism would cure us of the need or desire to sew and cook and clean (which is still a million times more realistic than Cinderella - who thought marriage would be her ticket out of chores and housework).

When my friends barter with me to sew in their zipper (no, too hard) or hem their pants, I realize this skill is useful. You may even be able to earn a living at it - just check out all the women who are opening their own Etzy Stores and online businesses and make it a point to Stimulate Women's Economy.

Not only can I make anything I want to and (sometimes) save money, but I can make anything I can imagine. (Truly it is more expensive to make the baby blanket than to buy the manufactured one these days.)

This is our feminine heritage.

My mother is a master seamstress, crafter, candy maker and all around home maker. I'm trying to get her to open an Etzy store of her own. You should be so lucky to get this woman's caramels for $26 a pound. I mean, Oprah should send for these melt-in-your-mouth mother candies and list them as her Favorite Things - they are that good.

Ainsley and ZACK will definitely benefit from learning these skills.

We should not stop teaching girls the feminine arts passed from generation to generation - we should stop teaching them ONLY to girls.

Hey, who wants to buy it Ainsley's first hot pad?

Thursday, November 6, 2008

Sibling Envy

1post-it.jpg

The only cure for sentiments like this is extra attention.

So, I put aside my own need to lie in bed with a book all day on Sunday and took her to town where we went window shopping.

Left Zack with Daddy.

What do you do when your kids get jealous? I wonder how Moms like Kate from Jon and Kate + 8 gives each kid "enough" attention? My aunt Stephanie had 10 kids - how do mother's manage that?

Are girls more insatiable than boys for attention?

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Pro-Girl Book Part 11, The Perfect You

last2.jpeg

last2 1.jpeg

It's been my pleasure to share Ainsley, Perfect You with my Empowering Girls: So Sioux Me readers.

You may have different ideas about religion or God or the nature of the Universe. You may have alternative views about education. Your child will have different attributes and characteristics, and your worries about your children and their development may be different from my own.

Still, with editing and creativity you can make a book for your own child that will counter the onslaught of negative media and marketing our kids face today.

you have plenty of time to create a book of your own for Christmas using your favorite digital photo website like Mypublisher.com.

Sign up for the Empowering Girls: So Sioux Me RSS Feed and bookmark this website so you don't miss more great tools to empower girls.

We'll be discussing some difficult and complex issues shortly, as I've recently finished So Sexy So Soon, the new book about why our kids' media has suddenly become so inappropriately hyper-sexual. I've also interviewed Rosalind Chait Barnett, PhD a nationally recognized expert on the impact of gender on work, school and other environments, and Emily J. Martin, a principal in an American Civil Liberties Union lawsuit charging same-sex public schools with discrimination.

Please leave comments so I know you're out there. I often wonder what everyone else thinks and comments are the only real indication I have of who you are and what you believe. What you think is important to me. I don't have all the answers. I have some ideas and a lot of questions.

Here's the rest of Ainsley, Perfect You:

Steal This Christmas Gift Please, Pro-Girl Book Part 1

Pro-Girl Book Part 2

Pro-Girl Book Part 3

Pro-Girl Book Part 4

Pro-Girl Book Part 5

Pro-Girl Book Part 6

Pro-Girl Book Part 7

Pro-Girl Book Part 8

Pro-Girl Book Part 9

Pro-Girl Book Part 10

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Pro-Girl Book Part 10, Good for Self Esteem

pg1 19.jpeg


page 19, purple.jpeg

Pages from Ainsley, Perfect You, a book I wrote for my daughter. Steal this idea for Christmas, Please!

Subscribe to my RSS feed and/or email subscription. You don't miss the rest of this series.

"Boogie Shaka Saka" was a phrase she made up and said over and over and over for about a year. She wanted to name the Baby "Boogie Shaka Saka" when I was pregnant. Fortunately, we prevailed and named him Zackary Elliott Cole instead.

Steal This Christmas Gift Please, Pro-Girl Book Part 1

Pro-Girl Book Part 2

Pro-Girl Book Part 3

Pro-Girl Book Part 4

Pro-Girl Book Part 5

Pro-Girl Book Part 6

Pro-Girl Book Part 7

Pro-Girl Book Part 8

Pro-Girl Book Part 9

Monday, September 22, 2008

Friday, September 19, 2008

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Pro-Girl Book Part 6, Best B-Day Gift

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pg1 12.jpeg

Pages from Ainsley, Perfect You, a book I wrote for my daughter. Steal this idea for Christmas, Please!

Subscribe to my RSS feed and/or email subscription. You don't miss the rest of this series.

Steal This Christmas Gift Please, Pro-Girl Book Part 1

Pro-Girl Book Part 2

Pro-Girl Book Part 3

Pro-Girl Book Part 4
Pro-Girl Book Part 5

Pro-Girl Book Part 5, Great Girls' Gift

pg1 9.jpeg

pg1 10.jpeg

Pages from Ainsley, Perfect You, a book I wrote for my daughter. Steal this idea for Christmas, Please!

Subscribe to my RSS feed and/or email subscription. You don't miss the rest of this series.

Steal This Christmas Gift Please, Pro-Girl Book Part 1

Pro-Girl Book Part 2

Pro-Girl Book Part 3

Pro-Girl Book Part 4

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

1st Day 1st Grade

P8240091082420080001.jpg

Yesterday I sent Ainsley off to First Grade.

Someone asked me, Did you cry?

Cry? I did cartwheels!

P8240094082420080004.jpg

Which is an exaggeration. I felt a some relief.

Have you any idea what its like to work with two small children in your cube?

P8250097082520080007.jpg

THIS is the reason I'm not doing cartwheels - Yet.

Zack is bored and lonely when his sister goes to school. He needs to go to preschool. Only I didn't realize my new town has only one and it fills up fast.

I'm praying for two biters and two separation anxieties - Zack's 4th on the list.

Mother's Day Out will give me 2 days a week to work uninterrupted. It will give him social contact with other children and stimulation. He's super smart - which is why he was trying to Make His Own Popcorn For Dinner. Check out his Potty Dance debut on YouTube.

How are ya'll managing your first day of school around the country?

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Empowering Girls: Yoga Skills

P8140002081420080002.jpg

One of my goals, as a parent, is to teach my daughter coping skills and practical techniques for dealing with stress.


Personally, I've found yoga to be instrumental in building a core strength, core inner self and self worth, stress reduction and in communing with God.


1yoga2.jpg


Of course I want her to have access to skills like this before she hits adolescents and all the negative coping strategies become available to her.

I used to use negative strategies like smoking cigarettes, experimenting with drugs, defining my self worth by boys and men, and a daily diet of Wellbutrin and Xanex. One of my primary objectives is to prevent the adoption of those.


P8140005081420080005.jpg


Over the summer I've been practicing yoga listening to Elsie Escobar classes on iTunes during Zack's nap. Sometimes I invite a friend. Sometimes I encourage Ainsley to try a few minutes.


She posed for these photos and then got bored before we moved out of the sitting pose. A fascination with the incense stick took over and she sat near me waving it through the air like a 4th of July sparkler.


The next afternoon I came out of the shower and found her teaching her friends yoga with a DVD, lit candles and burning incense.


Ssshhhh, Mom, we're having our relaxing quiet yoga time.


1yoga4.jpg


The APA's Report on Sexualization of Girls recommends teaching your children a way to center themselves, meditate, pray, and view one's body as having value beyond its appearance, beyond male entertainment. Yoga does that for me.


Hopefully, you have healthy coping methods that center and ground you and hopefully you're finding ways to teach those to your kids.

Teach what YOU know.


Friday, May 9, 2008

Empowering Girls: I Would Pick You

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If I were picking daughters off the shelf I would pick you Ainsley.

If I were picking Mommies of the shelf I would pick you Mommy.

(Idea taken from Growing a Girl: Seven Strategies for Raising a Strong, Spirited Daughter)

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Happy Birthday, Ainsley!


My daughter turned 6 yesterday. Six years I've been a mother and six years she's been learning and developing on this earth.

Her birthdays make me a little sad. They're full of joy, but that's six years we don't get to do over again. Six years that have passed and we can't have them back. Silly? A little, but valid none-the-less.

As she grows older I reflect on the things I hope she's learning. Last year, as I told you previously, I wrote her a book titled Ainsley, Perfect You. I want to share the foreword with you as a suggestion for what we, as mothers, should be teaching every daughter about herself.

A message to my daughter
that she IS, and always will be, enough.
Smart Enough
Beautiful Enough
Loved Enough
Strong Enough
Bright Enough
Witty Enough
Kind Enough
Generous Enough
Adventurous Enough
Compassionate Enough
Precocious Enough
Good enough to be the
Perfect Ainsley Sarah.